(ANON QUESTION RECEIVED FROM GodfirstGodalways)
You’ve mentioned that you’ve struggled with same-sex attraction. Why do you think you once felt attracted to girls? I have a 6yr old and for the last year, she’s been talking a lot about girls in a very crush-like way. She also only talks about girls, never mentions boy friends. She tells me she finds them cute and they smell nice. She likes it when girls hug her etc. This has been going on for a year. (1)(2) I feel like if I don’t address it now, it can really develop into something bigger. I don’t know where to start, and I don’t feel comfortable reaching out to others. I know it’s weird coming to you since you’ve never said anything about having kids, but you are someone who is very intimate with the Word and your advice is always helpful. God bless you and thanks!
I can remember in 3rd grade when I met my 3rd best friend at the time. We were great friends because she easily understood me and we just got along so well because we were both “weird” in a way, she got my quirks, I got hers, and I felt this closeness that I’ve never felt with anyone else. Throughout high school we remained great friends. I enjoyed my alone time with her but at the same time I was very self cautious when others (particular girl friends) were around. I had heard these particular girl friends of mine call her a butch, lesbo, bi…I thought it wasn’t right, but I’ve always wondered…I had a lot of crushes on boys, never with girls. Even though I liked boys, I never felt the pressure to date or have a boyfriend. I got along with both sexes equally. I had short hair most of high school, but the end of Junior year I finally let it grow and started wearing a little bit of makeup. Then the boys started to notice me in a different way. Lol. That’s when I started to realize that they actually liked me. It was also that same time when I had my first boyfriend, which lasted for 3 ½ years. Turns out my friend and I were just tomboys. She ended up marrying a man of God just a few years after we graduated and there I was all prettied up as one of her bridesmaids. 🙂
I had the type of personality that was easy to sway. I was easily led and just very go-with-the-flow, I was a people pleaser, very naive and gullible. I look back now and I’m thinking maybe having my first boyfriend strengthened my femininity. I had never gotten close to even considering being with a woman. My struggle was the confusion I had whenever I saw women show romantic gestures towards one another. My confusion was, why did it entice me? I’ve even had dreams where I was having sex with a woman, but I woke up still very much attracted to my boyfriend at the time.
I believe that your daughter is just enjoying being a 6 year old. She’s innocent and she may not even know the real meaning of a crush. She might be understanding it in her own way as a simple fondness of girls like herself. It’s completely normal for girls like her age not to have crushes on boys. She might think that boys are gross and that’s okay. She may just enjoy the company of girls more because like attracts like. If you’re still worried about this, I will be praying for you, that God will give you wisdom, faith, clarity, and a discernment for what to do. God bless you and your daughter! <3
Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Matthew 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
By HIs Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)