My family is so far away from God.

Sheela Leigh Staff asked 3 years ago


My family is so far away from God. Mom and my little brother. Also my Dad and his family. That’s what I struggle with. It hurts to see the choices they make and how they are struggling in their lives. How I try to be an example but how I can’t choose for them. I’m scared for them for how they choose to blind their eyes and cover their ears from God. The day of the Lord is closer every day. I’m scared that they aren’t coming home to Jesus.

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Sheela Leigh Staff answered 3 years ago

The fact that it hurts you to see them struggling is all part of God’s plan. Use those convictions to make reflections. I’m not at all saying that you yourself are probably as bad as they are. Not at all. But when we see things that bother us about other people, it’s usually something similar that we do not like about ourselves, whether we’ve overcome those issues or not. Whenever a family member is heavy on your heart, think about how you can relate to their struggle or bad choice and try to make a connection as best you can without being prideful, and you can begin your prayer for them that way. You have the right heart and I know you want to be a good example to them because it’s in God’s will; He wants you to be a good example to them too. Trust, He is using you even though you might not see it right now, He is using your circumstance/situation to keep molding you, and He is pleased with you the more you delight in Him. Try not to expect so much from them because that will only disappoint you. Put them first by praying often for them, asking the LORD to help you plant a mustard seed of faith in each and everyone of them through words and actions, but not necessarily words that might turn them off, use loving words in general and make sure your actions are loving too, and God will reveal certain times you should encourage and inspire them with biblical truth without sounding self-righteous or judgmental. And with the mustard seed of faith you plant in each and every one of them, ask God to help you see their growth that one day their spiritual maturity will lead to their salvation. He will be using you carefully and guiding you in this because He did not make a mistake who your family was going to be and who you are and who you will be to them. 
Thank you for this. I went through a period of feeling bad for my family members too because even though they were Christians their words and actions weren’t enough for me. I was good at personally condemning them and I did it secretly too. I don’t know if this happens to most new Christians, but it was definitely true for me, especially when I was on “fire” for God. I’ve come a long way to be at peace with myself and my family knowing that everything will turn out as He wills it. My parents have never been more faithful in their lives. I do what I can to work on myself and pray for my loved ones. Stay faithful and devoted no matter what friend. Keep praying. I believe you will have that confidnece of leading your family to Christ. You’re in my prayers tonight. <3
1 Peter 3:15-16 But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander. For it is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.
Jeremiah 1:7-8 But the Lord said to me, “Do not say, ‘I am only a youth’; for to all to whom I send you, you shall go, and whatever I command you, you shall speak. Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you to deliver you, declares the Lord.”
Matthew 5:16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
1 Timothy 4:12 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Philippians 4:12-13 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)