(ANON QUESTION RECEIVED FROM GodfirstGodalways)
Hi. I have a question. How does God want us to deal with…fleshly cravings, specifically sex? If you’re single, and will probably be that way for the forseeable future, are you supposed to just ignore those cravings? Is craving sex no different from craving food or water? I’m not saying that one should go out and have sex with some random person, but is masturbation out of the question?
Temptations are natural. We all have them. It’s the moment you realize you shouldn’t be entertaining such thoughts that matter to God. If you do nothing to counter those thoughts and instead keep fantasizing, sooner or later you eventually give into those fleshly cravings. You know deep down, you shouldn’t be involved in the act but you go ahead and do it….that’s when temptation wins and you failed the test. Temptations serve as tests/trials. The more often you say “NO” to those temptations and actually go against it, whatever they may be, the more you build your confidence and faith, the more peace you have. But the more you let your temptations get the best of you, the more you cause a divide in your heart, which eventually builds up as anxiety/fear.
Ignoring fleshly cravings might sound like the easiest thing to do when it’s actually easier said than done. I’ve done that plenty of times and I’ve discovered the more I ignore temptations, the more my pride actually builds which will bite me back on my butt later. I mistake my pride for confidence. What happens is I make myself blind to my own pride and when temptations come around again, they have become so big and strong. I end up responding not with wisdom but with weakness. Pride makes you weak. The more you ignore temptations the more you cause an imbalance in your soul. What every person should do if they want to overcome their temptation is listen for the Holy Spirit’s discernment. The more time you spend getting to know Christ the more you become aware of the difference between temptation and sin. If you’re growing in faith, you will know how to turn those temptations into character building moments.
God is the Creator of everything, and since He’s created everything, He also holds the knowledge on how we ought to live. Craving water is detrimental for our survival. Craving sex is natural. That’s why throughout history priests/popes have always gotten into trouble. He created men and women to make families. Biologically, God made us to procreate, but spiritually we were created to worship. Put those together and we end up with love and life. But society abuse their purpose and we end up with problems. You can’t have good without the bad. That’s just how it is. It’s a sinful world. At the end of the day, what’s going to matter is what do you want out of life and what are you going to do with what you’ve been given? How are you going to use God’s grace? God’s Grace is His Son, Jesus. What will you do with Jesus? Your daily relationship with Him is His most precious gift to you because that relationship is your key to the Father who blesses you with everlasting life, a full life here as well as eternal life. John 4:16 Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.“ The choice is up to you. I’ve chosen to live my life for God, recommitting and surrendering everyday…He knows I try. He knows I mess up too, but life makes so much more sense when it’s His guidance I depend on. I’ve tried living on my own terms before but only found anxiety and fear. I live for peace now and that peace is in God. If you don’t know your purpose in the Lord, either you will find your temptations to be insurmountable or you will be completely blind to them because you’ve ignored them but most importantly you’ve ignored acknowledging how much bigger God is compared to them.
If you’ve given your life to Christ, you should be growing in faith and if you’re growing in faith, then you should know whether masturbation is a sin to you or not. If it is honestly a temptation to you, then by following through you have committed sin. This is between you and God, just like premarital sex is between you and God. Pray. If you are convicted it is a sin, then clearly it’s out of the question. Don’t ignore your temptations before they turn into sins. Surrender them saying it’s out of your control and you want the Lord to take over. The moment you ignore your temptations you’re also ignoring your convictions and God’s discernment. And because we are not perfect, if and when they do turn into sins, let your surrender and let your brokenness bring you to complete humility before the Father. The moment you make justifications for your sins, you are compromising with Satan. Confess and repent. It’s with a humble heart the Lord Almighty turns your weakness into strength. Thank you for this! God bless you!
James 1:12 Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.
1 Corinthians 9:27 But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.
Romans 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)