(ANON QUESTION RECEIVED FROM GodfirstGodalways)
I want to talk to someone about God because he doesn’t believe and it breaks my heart that his soul isn’t saved. I don’t want to come on too strong because that can turn people off. How should I approach this?
Thank you for this 🙂 How well do you know the person? Sometimes it’s much more difficult to persuade the people closest to us when it comes to faith than acquaintances or people we’ve just recently become friends with. You can never get the results you want if you approach with the intent of wanting the person to see from your perspective. I learned that in high school and I learned it again and again even after high school. You can preach all you want on the internet and get followers, but if it’s someone in particular and in person you want to see changed, you must be that quiet but confident leader in their life. If you both spend just the right amount of time with each other (not too much, not too little, with or without the company of others), if you can humbly say your attitude about life in general reflects that of Christ’s, then it should make him admire you because of how you carry yourself in situations. Your words and behavior towards/around him will depend on how you pray for him and how often. Don’t make your prayer about them so much (that they are the problem), nonetheless sincerely love him to the best of your ability, but in your prayer express your concern to point that it goes back to you. Ask God what you can say and do, ask Him to reveal to you the opportunities to show God’s grace, ask Him what in you must be changed to make a difference his life.
So my advice is pray, because really that’s all you can do right now. Your actions and words towards him will follow through. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to mention God and Jesus to him ASAP, but slowly and surely show him how you love (not just him but also others), show him your patience, show him your perseverance, show him how well you can turn a negative into a positive, do all that not because you want him to change but because you really care about him, and sooner or later, conversation between you two will naturally lead to the topic of faith. Then you can tell him what Jesus has done for you…..that’s if you have been consistently praying about how to communicate with him. It’s about the person, but it’s really more about you. So the LORD wants us to love Him first, then others second, and ourselves last. But since it’s impossible to love others before we’ve even learned to love ourselves first, what I believe God means is, we must focus on showing concern for and interest in the lives of others before ourselves by making sure we are loving ourselves properly through a good standing relationship with God. But also, praying for others to come into his life is another advice I’d take seriously. I hope this helped. I am praying for you. <3
Philippians 2: 1-5 Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
Mark 12: 30-31 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)