I have been trying to witness to a loved one but I feel like anytime an opportunity comes up, I blow it!

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Sheela Leigh Staff asked 2 years ago


I have been trying to witness to a loved one but I feel like anytime an opportunity comes up, I blow it! After the moment has passed, I think of all the things I should’ve said. The moments catch me by surprise and I can’t think of something good to say fast enough. I get nervous and overwhelmed and my mind just goes, “this is your chance!!! Speak!!!” And I freeze and fumble the words. This is embarrassing and sounds dumb haha please pray for me, I need it!!

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Sheela Leigh Staff answered 2 years ago

The thing with witnessing is people only buy into it if your actions match your words/beliefs and energy. You must believe in yourself, but more importantly believe in the One who is in you. I’ve noticed in person that people are more interested in my beliefs when I speak in general with love and joy in a calm manner. I believed for a long time that you always had to be enthusiastic about witnessing….well that can only cause more anxiety. What’s more effective is actually believing every word that comes out of your mouth and that can look energetic or calm. I had an ex (he was a pastor’s son) who became my boyfriend before I got serious with God…he saw my potential as a Christian. I was drawn to him because of his faith, but every single conversation was about God and it always seemed like he was trying to “rescue me” from my old ways. It became overwhelming and eventually I distanced myself from him. If we’re being practical, a real relationship with anyone isn’t always going to have conversations about God and faith….we’re only human. People are drawn more to you when you communicate your faith in other ways other than having “Christian conversations”. Make sure that you’re not giving fear a chance believing that witnessing must be done all in one day. It takes time and patience, and a real relationship with the person, understanding their strengths and weaknesses and also an openness/transparency from you. If they seem to reject your words, it doesn’t mean they won’t ever want to listen to you again. There’s other ways and other times, but don’t get caught up in being responsible for their salvation.
I get that feeling though….”After the moment has passed, I think of all the things I should’ve said.” Can you try remembering what you wanted to say and journal often about it? This is something I personally do whenever I regret not saying something. The more often I meditate on it and bring it up in prayer, pleading with the LORD that my intentions are righteous, the more confident I become for actualizing it. Maybe it’s in God’s will that the time hasn’t come for you to be confident about speaking up because you really aren’t that ready. Well now, you know and have more desire to prepare for it. Bring it up often in prayer, express to the LORD how much you want to say just the right things at the right time, and ask Him to speak through you because your past experiences regarding witnessing is humbling (not embarrassing). Believe that this experience is all with good intent coming from God because now it makes you desire even more to be careful with your words and actions. Ask Him to show you what you should work on with yourself because before we try to make people change their ways, no matter who they are, there will always be something about ourselves that we see in them (good or bad). Explore your commonalities with that person through much prayer so the LORD can reveal to you how you can communicate clearly and effectively with this person out of love. Take your time to believe over and over again that the Holy Spirit is guiding you knowing your motives please the Father. You’re in my prayers tonight friend!
1 Peter 3:15 But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,
Acts 1:8 But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.”
Matthew 5:16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
2 Timothy 2:15 Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.
2 Timothy 1:8-12 Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord, nor of me his prisoner, but share in suffering for the gospel by the power of God, who saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in Christ Jesus before the ages began, and which now has been manifested through the appearing of our Savior Christ Jesus, who abolished death and brought life and immortality to light through the gospel, for which I was appointed a preacher and apostle and teacher, which is why I suffer as I do. But I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed, and I am convinced that he is able to guard until that Day what has been entrusted to me.
Romans 15”13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)