I don’t trust any man

Sheela Leigh Staff asked 3 years ago


I don’t trust any man. I think they are all dangerous even when the appear to be Christians.

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Sheela Leigh Staff answered 3 years ago

I actually know that way of thinking because for a long time I let my dad’s abusive nature affect me. It wasn’t until I truly forgave him in person and also in my heart (again and again) whenever I wasn’t around him that I finally started to feel peace. It wasn’t that easy though because even after I forgave him and all my failed relationships, I started to put up a thick wall around people especially men. I often had to and sometimes still do, remind myself I’ve forgiven him or forgive him all over again. On the outside I looked sweet and friendly and even flirtatious but deep down I was very cautious, sometimes to the point of viewing men as evil….wolves in sheep’s clothing. But God was patient with me and knew that I was still healing from the past, but He just kept molding me. I don’t know if you’ve ever been hurt like I was but you have to be honest with yourself and God and bring this negative thinking up to him regularly because it isn’t true that every man is dangerous. Man or woman, all humans have the potential to be dangerous, but if we don’t take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5) we make our own minds dangerous to ourselves. It’s all in how you choose to look at things. Are we making this life harder on us or turning what’s bad into good? He knows every motive a person has, not us. Perhaps you haven’t forgiven a particular person in your life? I don’t know your upbringing but this negative attitude towards men must have started somewhere. Trust that our Creator didn’t make a mistake of creating man first, history is history, we have become sinful people, but if we didn’t have God to repent to, how would we truly know what danger is? Psalm 118:8 says we shouldn’t put our trust in humans but that we should trust Him more, first and foremost, more than anyone. He never meant it in a way that we should dislike the opposite sex and judge them as if they’re all the same, not worthy of trust because then there would have been scripture telling women to stay away from them. He made man for woman and woman for man, He designed us to be in company with one another. We’re always going to have encounters with men, so are we always going to judge them every time? How we spend our time with the opposite sex is our free will. Are we going to waste that time or are we going to do what’s right? Thank you for this. I’m praying for us. 🙂
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)