How can I talk to God after a period of neglecting Him?

Sheela Leigh Staff asked 3 years ago

How can I talk to God after a period of neglecting Him? For a while, my relationship with Him has been stagnant and neglectful fully on my part. As a result, I feel guilty. I want to talk to Him again, but am afraid to if that makes sense. And because of it, I couldn’t hear and feel Him anymore & feel like He’s abandoned me altogether. I just want to know how I could get over this “awkward” phase, I suppose.

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Sheela Leigh Staff answered 3 years ago

One reason Christians go back to their old ways is because they start to believe that they are not fit for the Kingdom after they commit sins that have them believe they are just too great for God to forgive. They give up too easily. Much of that attitude sounds like “Well, it’s been this way for so long anyway, what’s the point?” The hardest times to praise God is the perfect time. It’s always when we don’t feel like it. Don’t forget that. Those are the times we must acknowledge His presence again and the more you practice this, the clearer you’ll hear from Him. You are human to feel guilty. That’s fine, but don’t hoard that negativity and keep it in the back of your head. That will kill you eventually. I mean it’s your spirit that’s going to suffer, basically it’ll be the death of your soul. Take the good, dump the bad. It’s not just the guilt, you should be wary of any negative thoughts that don’t match up with God.
2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
The guilt in you should make you humble yourself before God. Don’t let it cripple you, otherwise you’d be humbling yourself before Satan. You’ll hear from God again, but you must be diligent in faith. Be patient with yourself because He is very patient with you.
So you feel like He’s abandoned you and you’re scared He’ll never accept you again. Think of it this way. I don’t know if you have a child, but if you don’t, just imagine you did. Imagine your child did something so terrible like you found out he lied to you about something that just really affected the way you thought of him. You hold a grudge and give him the silent treatment, but you see that he’s really starting to feel terrible and regretful about what he did because he sees how upset and disappointed you were about it. Are you going to keep giving him the silent treatment as they withdraw and possibly sink into depression or are you going to initiate and encourage communication between the two of you, trying to understand why he did what he did, to implement correct discipline, and use that as a growth opportunity for him and for you? Imagine your child wanting to move on and truly feeling sorry that he wants to come to you to apologize. As a parent, are you going to listen or turn your back from them? Are you going to be that example of love for them or are you going to let your disappointment neglect them?
However you imagine yourself to react as the parent is how you view God’s perception of you. What you choose to believe about yourself is what you choose to believe about how God should view you. If that is your issue, you must exercise your faith that God is mightier than what you think of Him.
Isaiah 55:8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.
You cannot dictate how much love and attention He should give you. You’re not God, He is. You have to rediscover His love for you. It’s natural to think that you don’t deserve Him – YOU DON’T. I DON’T. BUT BECAUSE OF HIS PERFECT GRACE, YOU ARE GIVEN THE CHOICE TO ACCEPT IT OR NOT. HIS GRACE IS THERE NO MATTER WHAT. THE QUESTION IS “ARE YOU GOING TO ACCEPT IT OR CONTINUE NEGLECTING IT?”
Now imagine you are that child, who feels so out of touch with their parent, but you truly are ready to come forward repenting of all your sins. Do you believe that your parent will neglect you as hardheaded and stubborn as you are or do you have even the tiniest bit of faith that they might forgive you? A parent’s love comes with much discipline. Can you imagine how much God loves you now? What you’re going through right now is His discipline for you! Love yourself as if you were loving your own child. And even if you are not perfect in loving yourself, it’s completely alright to surrender in God’s arms as you let Him love you unconditionally, because His love cannot be beat. It is sure and complete no matter how long you have neglected Him. The more sincere your repentance is, the stronger your faith rests on the fact that He has loved you all this time and He welcomes you back in His arms, and He listens to you without condemnation. The more you confess that Jesus is Lord of your heart, that you are truly lost and nothing without Him, the more joy and peace He reveals to you because You will sense that He is glad you have returned to Him yet again. You will sense it is well with His soul and therefore you will also sense it is well with your soul. This is your connection with Him. Stay connected with Him, by praising Him, repenting your sins, thanking Him for the good and the bad, even for His discipline. You are loved deeply by your Creator. There is nothing that can separate His love from You. Nothing. Even if you feel like He doesn’t love you and you don’t deserve to go back to Him. God is not that kind of god. He is much bigger than you can ever imagine.
GET CREATIVE WITH PRAISE. DID YOU KNOW THAT WHEN YOU HAVE GOOD, POSITIVE, AND RIGHTEOUS THOUGHTS OF YOURSELF, OF OTHERS, AND OF HIM, JUST ANYTHING GOOD INTENTIONALLY LIFTED TO THE LORD, IT IS CONSIDERED PRAISE? TAKE THE FOCUS OFF YOURSELF AND BE HUMBLED AT HIS GREATNESS. GO AHEAD AND SOAK IN HIS MAJESTY. And even if you neglect Him again tonight or tomorrow because Christians are not perfect, just be aware that this awkward phase could come again. You should know what to do. Remember, His love remains the same. You must transform your mind through praise and prayer throughout the day. I hope and pray this helped. You are in my thoughts and prayers tonight! God bless you! <3
Psalm 86:15 But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.
Zephaniah 3:17 The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.
John 15:9-17 As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. These things I command you, so that you will love one another.
Romans 5:2-5 Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
Romans 8:37-39 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave himself for me.
Ephesians 2:4-5 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ— by grace you have been saved.
1 John 3:1 See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
1 John 4:7-11 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)