(ANON QUESTION RECEIVED FROM GodfirstGodalways)
i met this boy last year who i almost dated, he is not a follower of christ or at least he doesnt bear the fruit. yet i cant get over him even though he now has a girlfriend. why do i still believe in him? how can i take him down from my heart? what does God’s word say about this. i feel guilty and i worry about hurting the boys feelings if i just ignore him which i have started doing in order to protect my own heart. i feel condemned for giving up on him. why is this so twisted and confusing?
Hey don’t feel condemned. Don’t forget that anytime you feel condemned, it’s not from God but from Satan. You were convicted to protect your heart and that was because the Lord inspired you to seek better. There’s a reason why you two never worked out and he’s with someone else. There will always be a part of us that considers what could have been and we all have to surrender those thoughts to God because they don’t allow us to focus on Him, instead it makes us focus on the past. He gives us opportunities to form stronger bonds with one another but it’s up to our convictions and faith who we should let in and keep out. If God convicted you that he was not meant for you, that there is someone better, or you and him right now is just not the right time, take your focus off of what could have been, because if you and him were really meant to be, you would not even stress about this, you would trust God and just be chill. But the fact that you feel condemned for doing what you have to do to protect your heart is Satan’s way of making you change your mind about the decision you made to move on. It’s good you’re not ignoring this confusion because I believe if you were you would just make it more difficult on yourself. Are you bringing it up to God in prayer though? When you started to ignore him, did you first talk it over with God?
Sometimes when I feel confused enough about a situation, I get a pen and paper and just try to assess what’s gong on in my head, how do I honestly feel, what could make this better, what can I do about it, are my feelings practical or illogical, and how does all this matter to God, what do I think He’s tying to teach me? How should you pray about it? If I were in your shoes, here’s how I would have prayed about it…Father God, you know I just want to protect my heart, I value what you value, so please guide me, I’m trying my best to focus on You. Please forgive me if I come across this person like I don’t care, but God you know my heart and how vulnerable it can be, you know my efforts really is all just to glorify You. So Father, help me to remain faithful in this conviction You’ve placed in my heart, because I want to please You. I am confident in Your time because you prepare me more and more whenever I trust You with my heart. Thank You for guiding me always. Help me to seek You in all my relationships. In Jesus’ name, Amen. I’ll keep praying for you friend. It’s normal for feeling guilty but surrender that guilt to God. You’re not giving up on the guy if you bring him up in prayer. If you really care about him, pray for blessings to come his way, pray for his salvation, pray that God will break his heart for what breaks His. You’re headed the right direction. 🙂
1 Corinthians 14:33 For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Romans 8:1 Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)