How am I supposed to know if I should be waiting on Him or fighting?

What’s on your mind?Category: NEED HELP (specifically seeking tips/advice for faith/spiritual growth)How am I supposed to know if I should be waiting on Him or fighting?
Sheela Leigh Staff asked 2 years ago


I’ll listen to a sermon or read a Bible verse that says to “be still”, “wait on the Lord”, “the battle is not yours”, etc. and then the next sermon/verse will be calling me to action. It has me torn. How am I supposed to know if I should be waiting on Him or fighting? My nature says to fight. I’m a fighter and that’s what I always feel like I should be doing. So it’s hard for me to tell if I feel like fighting because that’s who I am or if it’s because that’s what God wants me to do.

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Sheela Leigh Staff answered 2 years ago

Thank you for this! I love this. :)) Here’s what I believe about you. I believe that God purposely made you this way to make you work towards becoming wiser through practicing patience. There’s so much wisdom you can gain in waiting and there’s only more regret in being so practical at times. Your nature is to fight. God made you this way perhaps because He wants you to fight your urges to want to fight in your own terms. You said it and you know it….it’s your nature. But God wants us to live by faith (2 Corinthians 5:7). I believe that God has also made you the way you are because with growth and wisdom, you could really use your energy to glorify Him. Always pray considering His time and His will. My nature is to trust my feelings. And guess what? Because of my faith in God, I’ve learned not to trust my feelings so much but instead use them as triggers to straight to Him. Now, I’m not as sensitive or take things so personally as I had for so long.
There was so many things that confused me about what the Bible says and how I’m suppose to live. Balance was definitely a struggle, so I completely understand what you mean. 🙂 I often felt like my mind couldn’t handle it anymore so I would just get so frustrated and at times I entertained thoughts of what my life would be if I never made a vow to God. But I get you. More often than not though, my faith has taught me to become resilient, get back up and start over again, because no matter how hard it got, the thing I was always sure of was that I never wanted to go back to my old ways. If you’ve made a commitment to the LORD, make sure you have 2 or 3 sincere reasons you’ve chosen to be on this path.
The 1st should answer “Why am I a Christian for God?”
The 2nd should answer “How does this help others?”
The 3rd should answer “How is this helping myself?”
The reason I’m following Christ is because this is what pleases God and I know it pleases Him because it’s in His will, and I know as long as I am living for His will, it glorifies Him. The reason this helps others is because if I’m obeying the LORD then I will be disciplined and that means I’ll give the best of me to others. The reason this helps me is because I know my confidence is nothing without Him and if I neglect my relationship with Him, I know that I will start to go back to my old ways, and that is something I really don’t want to happen.
You say you are a fighter — so remind yourself of your reasons why you’re on this path and that will help you move on from feeling torn or confused.
You have to know your temptations. Maybe a temptation of yours is losing your patience, having the urge to make your move when it’s not the right time. Pay close attention to any motives you have that you have not taken the time to bring up to God. Is that temptation insistent on having your way? If it is, then God is saying (at that moment you’re aware of your temptation) “be still and wait on Me”. This means He wants you to pray about this until you have peace about it. It may not only take one prayer or two, but when you finally agree consistently that this is all in His hand and you’re surrendering this situation, then you’re allowing Him to work in you what must be done to fulfill His will.
Making action upon His will is basically claiming that confidence He finally gave you after waiting. Waiting can mean a few minutes to hours or even days, weeks, months….it all depends when you receive conviction from the LORD after you have become more aware of your temptations. Don’t make a move based on your own terms, which usually means your feelings or your own common sense. The next time God is convicting you to wait, seek Him, surrender yourself and the situation that’s heavy on your heart, make small actions that support your faith because it’s in God’s will, and perhaps the bigger move you should make will come in another conviction, so long as you stay faithful. Waiting patiently on God means your humbling yourself and being careful no to be impulsive. So you can actually wait on the LORD and still make a move so long as that move is something you genuinely know supports your faith in Christ. Do you know all of your temptations well? If not, then ask God in prayer to help you be more aware of them, because if you know them well, then you acknowledge your relationship with Jesus much of the time.
There is also this verse Exodus 14:14 The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still. I hope you’re not confused. This applies to when you’re overwhelmed with anything. So, like, with your situation about this whole thing, the LORD is saying be still, He will fight for you. He will fight your confusion away if you keep still in Him (humble yourself, surrender, pray for peace, focus on Him, yield the situation).
Don’t forget that confusion is from Satan. God will never confuse you. So if this is confusing you, simply know that you can always change your perspective of this, from confusion to belief and conviction that this very situation you have is from God. You feed into Satan’s energy by staying confused. So instead of being overwhelmed and worried that you may not be doing His will, be still and know that this situation is from God and it’s a blessing because now look where you’re at….you’re a little more wiser than before. Learn to count it a blessing because since you’re concerned with how to please Him, this brings Him glory and honor. Next time you don’t know what to do, remind yourself, this confusion is of Satan, and deliberately believe that God is blessing you because He wants your attention on Him, which is an opportunity to reconnect with Him. Wait on Him by praying, then move forward…you don’t necessarily always have to make a “move” after you pray, but moving forward just means move with faith. If you think it requires a bigger move, then keep praying about it. I hope this helped you. You’re in my prayers tonight, friend! 🙂
Isaiah 30:18 Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him! 
Romans 12:12 Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times.
James 1:12 Happy are those who remain faithful under trials, because when they succeed in passing such a test, they will receive as their reward the life which God has promised to those who love him.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)