(ANON QUESTION RECEIVED ON GodfirstGodalways)
Hi love, please tell me what to do… I’ve been praying for a particular person to be saved, but deep down I don’t really believe he will be saved. I’m so scared that maybe he won’t be saved. Do you think it’s possible that we might pray for our loved ones our whole life, but in the end they still end up in hell? If that’s a possibility, then how can I keep praying with a peaceful mind, when I constantly fear I will never see this person I care about again in heaven…?
Hey! 🙂 I really hope my thoughts help you. <3 Short story, but true. My mom prayed for my dad’s salvation for nearly 9 years before He finally gave his life to God, and even after he got baptized he was still abusive and a drunk. What really started to change him were certain situations such as the death of his dad, the birth of my younger brother, and the loss of my mom’s job in 2013. People are people and they will stick to their stubborn ways, but some will make small adjustments and some will turn their lives around 360 depending on the severity of the situation. Severe desperation calls for change, very big change. Doubts call for compromise. This may sound bad, but I pray for hardships to come to people’s lives. If you tell God exactly how hardships would serve as a lesson, He will reveal to you opportunities you can be of use/help. He makes all things work for the good of the one praying first and it becomes apparent sooner or later to the one you prayed for. It’s important that you pray for them as often as you can remember because as God softens your heart around the person, it transforms the way you communicate with them.
Success in this world depends on your relationships with people and that’s why LOVE is the key. If you do not have love, God will not lead you to the right people or He will not reveal to you who they are in order that you will achieve your goals. NO PAIN NO GAIN. YOU WILL ONLY START TO SEE POSITIVE CHANGES IN YOUR LOVED ONE WHEN YOU START TO SEE A SIGNIFICANT SPIRITUAL CHANGE IN YOURSELF FIRST. PRAYER CHANGES THE ONE PRAYING FIRST, AND YOU WON’T SEE YOUR SURROUNDINGS CHANGE UNLESS YOU CHANGE FIRST. IF YOU HAVE JOY IN YOUR HEART KNOWING YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS PLEASE GOD, THEN IT’S ACCORDING TO YOUR FAITH HE GAVE OUT OF HIS WILL HOW YOU WILL COMMUNICATE AND BEHAVE AROUND THIS PERSON. I know I said extreme desperation calls for big change, but the desperation has to be with humility and faith, not disbelief and complaints. So keep praying, don’t stop. But perhaps you need to prioritize praying for your unfaithfulness in God before you pray about your loved one who is not saved. A GOOD FRIEND REMINDED ME THE OTHER DAY, “YOU CAN’T HELP OTHERS IF YOU CAN’T EVEN HELP YOURSELF FIRST.” Is there a stagnation in your life? How is your relationship with this person? Could the communication be better?
I pray for hardships to come to my loved ones’ lives when I’m convicted that they’re so blinded by earthly things. But it is also a lesson and reminder for me that prayer is not so people in my life will change for the better….the focus is not there…the focus is in my direct relationship with God, where He makes me aware yet again that there is something in me that only by His power can be changed, and if I surrender and welcome that, whatever it was I desired falls into place. He has yet answered another request according to His time and His way. As you gain more confidence and faith that God disciplines those He loves (including your loved one), then trust that He is in control of every situation. Your trust in His will and time will help you know what to mention every time you pray, because as you’re more aware of the hardships your loved one is battling, you will naturally be inspired to motivated and encourage them, without trying so hard or overdoing it. And guess what?? It’s the contagious faith in you that they are drawn to reciprocate what you put out there. As you pray to be a vessel, slowly and surely their character will continue to change, and as you pray even more, your qualities will rub off on them and they become even closer to salvation. You are not the only person they should be influenced by. As you keep praying consistently, you may even want to attract more faithful people into your life who can help you pray even more for them. It also helps to learn to love the desperation you’re feeling as you pray. I believe it’s part of the process. So many pray in desperation hating the feeling, but if you remind yourself that God is guiding you, then it’s in His will your weakness turns to His strength in you. Embrace that desperation with humility and faith each time you pray for them because it’s a powerful effect on you rather than being desperate yet doubtful.
2 Corinthians 12:10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
HAVE FAITH IN THE ONE YOUR PRAYING TO. GOD IS NOT PLEASED WITH FEAR AND DOUBT. HE IS PLEASED WITH FAITH AND HOPE AND GRATITUDE AND LOVE. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO SEE RESULTS IF YOU’RE NOT EVEN COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS. A GRATEFUL HEART IS FULL OF HOPE. WHEN YOU’RE FULL OF HOPE, YOU WILL NATURALLY AFFECT YOUR SURROUNDINGS WHERE YOU’LL HAVE MORE INFLUENCE THAN USUAL. YOU WILL BE MORE AWARE OF ANY PROGRESS YOU SEE IN YOUR LOVED ONE THEREFORE YOU WILL ONLY MOVE FOWARD CONTINUING TO PLEASE THE LORD. MY DAD BY THE WAY IS A STEWARD AT HIS CHURCH AND LEADS BIBLE STUDIES BEFORE THE PASTOR GIVES THE SERMON ON SUNDAYS. GOD IS SO GOOD! HE REALLY DOES CHANGE PEOPLE. I AM PRAYING FOR A RENEWING OF YOUR FAITH AND YOUR LOVED ONE TO FIND FAITH IN GOD. <3
1 Corinthians 13:13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Romans 14:19 So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.
Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Psalm 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)