If feelings come and go from God, does He intervene in dating relationships?

What’s on your mind?Category: QUESTION (specifically seeking Bible knowledge/wisdom)If feelings come and go from God, does He intervene in dating relationships?
Sheela Leigh Staff asked 3 years ago

(ANON QUESTION FROM GodfirstGodalways)

1/2 I’ve been reading some articles and podcasts from Christians that I’ve admired for years about marriage and how God usually doesn’t say to us “yes, marry him” or “nope, not him” (like, how people say “I prayed and God told me and reaffirmed that you’re the one”) because he’s already said so much about it in the Bible. He tells exactly the kind of person to marry (one who loves Him, seeks wise counsel, etc.) and He gave us free will. There is not ONE man for every woman, we have a choice as 2/2 to who we love. We choose to stay, make it work, and love people. We choose to walk away and move on. Sometimes that choice is made for us by the other person, but it’s still a choice. So my question is, if feelings come and go from God, does He intervene in dating relationships? Like, if I choose a great Christian man, can/does/why does God say, “for XYZ, I’m taking these feelings”?

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Sheela Leigh Staff answered 3 years ago

I’m sorry for my late reply. I completely agree that God doesn’t say “Yes, marry him/her” or “No, don’t marry him/her”. He doesn’t speak to us with an audible voice. He speaks to us through reading and hearing the Word because that’s just how we build our faith, and also God works in mysterious ways. Just like He doesn’t say “Yes, this is the job you should have/no, you should not have this job.” I believe the decisions people in general make in life are based on how self-confident they feel about them. But if we narrow it down even more, we will only find very few people who seek the Lord’s guidance in almost every aspect of life. So from a Christian perspective, it comes down to how confident a Christian is in their faith and that’s what determines how their convictions play out. But no matter where a person is in their spiritual walk, if they have even a slight conviction on any matter, that is what is true to them. If a  Christian says such and such is what God told me, then that is their conviction. It’s hard to talk someone out of their conviction. However our future unfolds because of a certain decision we made, God is still loving, graceful, and merciful to give us free-will, Christian or not. What will we do with that free-will? Will we keep honoring God with our thoughts, words, and actions? Because my conviction is if I do the best I can, no matter how imperfect my efforts are, so long as I strive (get back up/not give up), then the LORD will continue to convict me because I choose to seek Him.

Let’s say a young Christian woman has been in love with Jesus all her life but she just hasn’t met anyone worth dating, even. But one day she meets someone through a good friend who happens to be a Christian. So that someone is Christian but he’s a new Christian and still needs a lot of work. They start dating because it’s clear they are attracted to each other and they have a lot in common. God will absolutely intervene even if they kissed on the first date because they’re moving too fast. And He will absolutely intervene if they commit sexual sin. But His intervention will most likely be more revealed to the more mature Christian than the new Christian. In the Meriam-Webster dictionary, it says that ‘intervene’ means to become involved in something (such as a conflict) in order to have an influence on what happens. So, yes, the LORD intervenes. But who is convicted and who is not? What was the conviction? The influence God will have on a person depends on their conviction and their conviction depends on the health of their relationship with God. The person/people in the situation must allow God’s involvement in it in order for there to be an influence on them. If no one is convicted that anything is wrong then God’s intervention means nothing to them because to them it doesn’t exist. Now, it’s up to the woman’s decision to go on with this relationship or not after she has been convicted that what they did was wrong. Let’s say, she wasn’t however convicted that she should break up with this guy. Whatever her decision is, it will always lead to more free-will. She can right her wrong and possibly keep seeing the guy, especially if he also decides to right his wrong. If they pray on it and refocus on Him, then He might even bless their relationship. Whatever happens after that, no matter what, God intervenes. He intervenes in all relationships, no matter how perfect some may appear to us.

It’s all according to the person’s faith if they are aware of God’s interventions or not, and what they do about it. We have no business in knowing the future, because He wants us to be humble and trust in His guidance. As long as a person is repenting of their sins and truly are living for God, then He will show His favor to His children. NO ONE SHOULD PUT SO MUCH FOCUS ON HOW GOD WILL BE WORKING IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP(S) OR HOW THEY WILL BE JOINED WITH THEIR FUTURE HUSBAND/WIFE. IT’S AN INDICATION OF DISTRUST IN THE LORD’S PERFECT PLAN FOR US. ALWAYS TRUST IN HIS GUIDANCE THAT IT IS GOOD. PERIOD.
If a single person seeks to honor God the rest of their life and they are diligent, and faithful that He will guide them to their future spouse, even if breakups happen, if their faith withstands that God will provide, then surely God will provide a spouse for that person. HE WILL ABSOLUTELY INTERVENE IF HIS WILL IS NOT THE FOCUS. For the single individual searching for their future spouse, I would say that they should stop analyzing exactly how God might change their circumstances or orchestrate their future, and just focus on their relationship with Christ. Our focus and daily relationship with Jesus matters so much because the more time we spend with Him, the more our qualities/characteristics will attract the right people, responses, and situations into our lives, and because it should help us trust the Holy Spirit’s guidance more and be aware of how blessed we are with our free-will. We must honor the LORD with our free-will. We must meditate on His promises for us. We must remain humble about who we are and who we like/love. For unmarried couples, no matter how much a person is convicted that he’s the one, or she’s the one, even though it sounds very positive, God still wants us to take captive of those thoughts and offer them to Him because don’t forget, He intervenes for our own good.

I hope my explanation makes a lot of sense. I took a while contemplating whether I should make a video or not about it, but that took a lot of time lol. I honestly had to dig deep and pray to find the right words. Thank you for this anyway, it was a great question! God bless you! 🙂

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Mark 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Romans 8:28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

Proverbs 14:55 The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps.

Proverbs 6:13 Commit your work to the LORD, and your plans will be established.

Proverbs 16:20 Whoever gives thought to the word will discover good, and blessed is he who trusts in the LORD.

James 4:17 If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will.

By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)