(ANON QUESTION RECEIVED FROM GodfirstGodalways)
Do you have any helpful advice for getting through a breakup? I’ve been trying my hardest to turn to god but recently I can’t shake the feeling of suffocating sadness đ
Itâs hard for you to give all your focus to God because you havenât yet understood the difference between worldly sorrow and godly sorrow. Worldly sorrow says âIâm too sad because this happened.â Godly sorrow is a sadness in your heart that you share with Christ, you sense the Lordâs sadness over a situation. You agree and share in His sadness. Are you suffocating of sadness because you donât have that person in your life anymore or are you saddened because you know God was disappointed in how you handled and maintained the relationship? If itâs because you feel rejected and misunderstood that means youâre more aware of how sensitive you are instead of being more aware of how sensitive you should be towards Godâs feelings.
My advice for you is to watch Christian vlogs on YT specifically on dating. Being equally yolked is important in a relationship. God knows whatâs best for you and whoâs best for you. Knowing whatâs best for you requires a lot of daily time with Him. The reason most couples break up is because of a lack of discipline and self-control. Conflicts are much easier to overcome if both individuals stopped focusing on the problem and instead put God in the center. Iâve been through a couple of breakups and I remember one particular one where I experienced a sharp pain in my chest, almost like I was being stabbed. It hurt so much that it made me take my relationship with God even more seriously. You mustnât let another heartache get the best of you before you take God more seriously. Right now begin to put Him first before anything. Donât let the next person you date get in the way of your relationship with Him. Make Him number one because the more you get to know Him and love Him the more things fall into place, and that goes with anything else besides relationships.
The reason it fell apart was because you two werenât walking in the same direction. If both of you are Christians then either one or both of you were not really walking in the faith. Donât stay idle. Satan is really good at making you remember the past and putting negative thoughts in your head when you are not doing much. So get busy. Make sure youâre taking a lot of time in the Word so youâre reminded of your purpose and when you get busy do it all for God. If youâre suffering from this worldly sorrow you have to learn to grieve for what God grieves for. Itâs important to get rooted in His wisdom and promises so you learn to see from His point of view and so that if you ever get into a breakup again, youâll be certain that that person was not who the Lord intended for you, that He has someone better for you. Bottom line, take Him more seriously than youâve ever before. Use pain as a trigger to focus more on Him because Heâs the true healer of all hearts. Iâll be praying for you. God bless! đ
By His Grace, Sheela (Via godfirstgodalways)