Three years of being single is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself, next to learning how to forgive. What do they have in common? They’re both matters of the heart. It’s love again. I did myself a big favor by taking a break, a break that at first was focused more on staying away as far as possible from boys and men, to a break that focused more on wanting God. Where there are relationships, there are conflicts. And there are all kinds of relationships. Whether they are between relatives, co-workers, neighbors, and friends, outward and inward conflicts will happen. Where there is conflict, there’s a need to prioritize. It comes down to making God your priority, and it matters to Him how you deal with those difficult situations. I believe that when a person is constantly experiencing conflict, it is a sign that they have not been spending enough time in the Word of God. The Bible has many ways of reminding us to love Him and desire Him above all things. None can go wrong maintaining a loving relationship with Christ.
Matthew 6:21 – For where your treasure is there your heart will be also.
Prioritize eternal things, not temporal ones. If a single woman values her emotions, pride, or personal freedom more than God, the man who she wants to open her heart won’t have that key. If she values beauty and fashion over God, men will be encouraged to think that the key to her heart is all in the lust of the eyes. If she values her career over God, she will attract men who believe that they can unlock her heart with the pleasures of money. If she values delicacies over God, she will look for men who will use food to please her, because her stomach is the way to her heart. Okay, so you get the point. We all know these things don’t last. But if a woman values God’s heart more than anything, the right man will sooner or later find her because he understands that Christ is the Key. Men and women must understand/remember that they were made in God’s image, (Genesis 1:27). And since He also created His Son in His own image, (Colossians 1:15), we are to be Christlike/godly. We must submit our hearts completely to God, because Christ’s heart longed to please the Father’s.
The key is in God’s hand. What man can continue to present woman is love, respect, and understanding after He has opened her heart to him. The man and woman become the keys to each other’s hearts, and that’s only if they both understand/remember they were both made for God, to honor Him with their hearts. A man after God’s own heart more than he is after a woman’s is such a charming and admired quality. I’m just going to say it. It’s so, very sexy. That type of man values righteousness, he’s full of wisdom, and understanding, his love is sure and fair, and his mind is just as beautiful as his heart. That kind of man can definitely be trusted and respected because he is also the leader that he should be. 1 Corinthians 11:3 – But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. Although David was never perfect, he was a great leader because he was a man after God’s own heart. Psalm 16:2 – I said to the Lord, “You are my Lord; apart from You I have no good thing.” Are you a man or woman after God’s own heart?
“He/she has the key to my heart.” I believe this worldly saying takes a lot away from understanding/remembering the fact that God is our first love. For instance, if a young woman who doesn’t know her first love is God, were to tell her boyfriend of a couple months, “You have the key to my heart”, he will not realize the pressure it will put on him at first. He will not feel it until the love quotes start to pile up. This is likely so, especially if the young man also doesn’t know his first love is God. He will feel pressured from her subconscious expectations to be understood with all his heart, to read her mind, to know exactly how she feels at particular moments, and so on and so on. These romanticized words do not have lasting meaning. They will perish just as easily as men and women will walk out of each other’s lives. By believing in such cliches, we choose to acknowledge that there is a special key for every heart and that special key could be held by any man or woman. And by doing that we’re left to search relentlessly for the “perfect one”. And with each one that we think or believe could be the “perfect one”, we tell ourselves we must learn to open up our calloused hearts all over again.
Men just as women are not perfect. But God is perfect. And His love is perfect. And His Son is perfect. God proves His love through the gift of His Son. His Heart is exhibited in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, (John 3:16). And if we were all after God’s own Heart, there would be less heartaches in the world. If we have Christ in our hearts, we’ve already found the Perfect One, because He knows all our desires. We can stop complaining about our spouses/significant others and stop focusing on what they lack and how imperfect they are. We can stop searching for happiness and rest knowing that Christ is in His right hand, (Mark 16:19). Focus on your relationship with Christ, because He is the Key. And the Key to successful relationships is Love. Matthew 7:7 – Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. God holds the Key, never man.